Who’s in your circle? Who are the people you hold close to the vest and support you regardless? For some, the circle includes their spouse, the person they are dating, family members or friends.
And for others, their circle includes co-workers and people who share a common interest.
For me, my circle is small and getting smaller every day.
My coach and mentor, Bernita. Without a doubt my circle includes the woman that has been a huge supporter, cheerleader and friend these past several months.
Since this fall she has been by my side as I take on this new journey into bodybuilding. Among many other things, it is great to have a person I can vent to when other people give their opinions on how l look as my body changes. She continues to reassure me of how it really is.
My sister on the pavement and fitness companion, Eboni. This woman right here and I have gotten ourselves into a number of interesting fitness expeditions together and it all really began with a trip to Miami a few years ago. Since then we run a variety of events together and now both continuing on sculpting our bodies for 2016.
My crazy and enthusiastic friend, Tammie. Among other things, it’s been good to have someone be there during the highs and lows of competition prep. Since we work together, it’s hard for her not to be there with my meals every three hours. It’s been great to have her be a person to tell me I look great and that my hard work is showing, even on my insecure days.
The G, Kareen. Ha! This one right here is special on another level. She contacts me just because as well as after reading an emotional blog post to see if I’m okay. We laugh and joke about anything and everything. It’s great to have a friend I can vent to when I have noticed people who I thought were my friends have blocked or unfriended me on social media.
My family. I’ve gotta love them and their support for all that I want to do. We are spread across the country, but we support each other however it is possible. Most recently, my aunt traveled from NYC to support me in my first competition.
And then there is Kendra, who I lost last year. When anything important happened in my life, I called Kendra. She was usually the first text if not the first phone call. But those things have changed because of circumstances.
Research suggests that a strong circle and support system is key in maintaining our mental health. Having people we can count on provides protective factors against depression, it enhances our sense of confidence and esteem, makes us feel less isolated and helps hold us accountable when we set goals.
A support system is not just a bunch of people who call when they need a ride or who update you on the happenings. Our support system should be made up of people who actually show up when they say they will, allow us to show all parts of ourselves and who provide us with what we need and in ways that we need it.
Sometimes it’s hard to really admit who is in the circle and who happen to be in the vicinity. My involvement in the sport of bodybuilding is shining a light on others as I continue to pursue my goals and vision.
Who’s in your circle? Who supports your dreams and goals?